tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5025597267472446999.post4746218295547789484..comments2023-06-13T08:16:23.163-06:00Comments on blankies, boogers, and be@rice: again... family is complicatedMandy Bhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04061811827983070304noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5025597267472446999.post-62657003436728752302009-05-06T16:36:00.000-06:002009-05-06T16:36:00.000-06:00Mac did an amazing job at the gravesite service an...Mac did an amazing job at the gravesite service and feeding us all at the lunch afterward. Of course, he had some memories that he shared that made him tear up but he stood up strong and did a great job. The food was pretty much a great Thanksgiving dinner with a few family favorites ie: green onions and sweet tea. I think the worst part about the whole event for me is that I hurt when I see others hurting. When I see my family grieving so hard, it makes me cry. I want to take some from them. Is that called empathy? I guess. It's my curse. I don't know how to comfort people but I pick up their energy. Today was a very hard day to watch the urn being placed into the dirt and all of us hang around and tell stories and laugh and cry. GRRR! there are a few details that I learned today that just make me more mad. I guess it's my grieving process right now. I hope it goes away and changes to something else. <br /><br />Knowing you as well as I do and knowing your family, you can definitely understand my phrase "family's complicated." I know on some level everyone has a complicated member or moment. I'm sorry to hear someone was and still is awful about your stuff. I would hate to be in their head and carry that much hate and/or anger for that long.Mandy Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04061811827983070304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5025597267472446999.post-85035635769449505802009-05-06T16:18:00.000-06:002009-05-06T16:18:00.000-06:00Amanda, you confused the crap out of me!! I didn'...Amanda, you confused the crap out of me!! I didn't even stop long enough to register the name! <br /><br />I'm sure a lot are relieved, the drama and everything is over, no more threats and manipulation (that's how I view suicide). Not to say it doesn't hurt any less to lose someone, expected or not. <br /><br />I saw Mac the other day, just about ran him over in the parking lot at Wal-Mart, and he looked just like Mac, I was expecting him to look like a complete and total mess, from the way I heard he was taking it from people! <br /><br />Don't feel like an awful friend at all! That's a part of my life that apparently I succeeded in keeping hidden all those years! It was always such a huge deal to someone I won't mention, even say her name in front of her or to even look as though you were thinking about her, so it was easier for me to just hide it than to have to face the wrath of that certain someone!! <br /><br />You think after 19 years she'd get over it too, but she's still just as bitchy about it as she's always been!!<br /><br />Enjoy your family while they are around, and let me know if Ralph and Barbara are in town!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09201268634567410674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5025597267472446999.post-57178016125382885172009-05-03T22:05:00.000-06:002009-05-03T22:05:00.000-06:00I don't know how Mac is really feeling about this....I don't know how Mac is really feeling about this. When my mom told him, he seemed to come across that it was expected and not surprising. He wanted to be a support to my mom instead of the other way around. She was mighty surprised by that. I think in all reality for a few, there is a sense of relief. That he is in a better place. In the public eye, he may be taking the sympathy which is great and I hope he is, but to the family, well, he seems to be unsurprised and pretty unfazed. I know my dad is very angry. <br /><br />Stacy, can I tell you, I feel like an awful friend. I had no idea that you lost your mom! It's tough to know that it sometimes is harder now than it was then. <br /><br />And this is amanda, i just don't want to take the time to log in to my own name. =)Matt Baileyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13313524082145750536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5025597267472446999.post-83173732197825554282009-05-03T17:55:00.000-06:002009-05-03T17:55:00.000-06:00I agree! I also think any death can be like that ...I agree! I also think any death can be like that if it's ignored and not talked about, makes people feel ashamed and uncomfortable talking about it. I feel really sad for Mac, you dad too, but your dad has your mom and all of you guys to help him through this, and I know how hard Mac is taking all of this.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09201268634567410674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5025597267472446999.post-3616779060621209972009-05-02T09:19:00.000-06:002009-05-02T09:19:00.000-06:00I definitely agree that it should be talked about....I definitely agree that it should be talked about. I think families that pretend things are okay and ignore issues such and mental illness is a problem that could lead to a suicide. It's too bad we all do this at some point.Anghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14744834383144038723noreply@blogger.com